[Trauma Dump] Left America, Reunited with my Wife, Recovering mentally

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This is probably going to be a long story. If you would like to skip it, the long story short is, "If you've seen 'Worst Roommate Ever' or 'Worst Ex Ever' on Netflix, then this story would be called 'Worst Family Friend Ever' and it has consumed over 15 months of my life.

It all started 3 days before me and my wife had our first wedding in the country where we were both living and working (Taiwan). A family friend, let's call him "Ahmed", approached me and said, "Your mother told me if you do not go back to America, she will take you out of the inheritance." So I made plans to go back, but only after our second wedding in my wife's country.

Let's take a moment to talk about who Ahmed is.
Ahmed is from the Arabian peninsula, I won't say which country. Ahmed is my dad's best friend. Ahmed is rich with assets (quite literally in multimillionaire territory from all of his real-estate) based in his own country. When Ahmed told me what he said in the above paragraph, this was my third time seeing him face to face, and the prior two times combined made my acquaintance with him exceed two months. During this time I noticed nothing untrustworthy about Ahmed.

This is a non-comprehensive list of grievances I have with Ahmed:

1. In 2022, he said to me he won't talk business with women. When he comes to our second wedding in my wife's country, he said to my wife, "You need to start a business and I can help you." Ahmed is a Muslim. I am a Muslim. My wife is a Muslim. Ahmed says things to me that he wont say to my wife or mother. I'm pretty sure he wants a second wife and this is why he "flipped" on talking business with women.


2. He talks business with everyone, in a similar manner that a fuckboy asks everyone to sleep with him.


3. He over-involves himself with my personal life.


4. He over involves himself with my professional life.


5. He thinks he knows better than me when this is demonstrably not true.


6. Due to the above, you can matter-of-factually tell him he can or cannot do something and he will not listen. If you tell a government office does not accept walk-ins, he won't listen. He will go in, and a security guard will have to tell him the same thing you tell him.


7. He has affected my ability to get things done by telling me to do things that I literally do not need to do.


8. 3 months after I went back to America, I broke a bone in my ankle. He was always telling me to help him start a business during this time. I was opposed to it because I was injured and I had my own plans.


9. Constant lies, pretending to know better than me. I wanted to get a technical certification in his country while I was there and he told me, "American employer want American education." The certification was from CompTIA, an American organization.


10. The biggest lie: while my ankle was broken, he told my father to leave me alone with him in our family garage to smoke cigarettes. He started crying and told me, "Your parents took you out of the inheritance last time you were in Asia. They put you back in the inheritance because I convinced you to come back to America." I felt bad because in that moment I believed him and told him not to cry. A couple of months later, my mother set the record straight with me and said it never happened.


11. He boasts and says he is "more than 50% American" in his own words. But he doesn't know how much money I had to spend to get my ankle looked at while it was broken 6 months ago and I am literally still paying bills from that time frame. I spent more on medical bills after 6 months in America than an entire decade in Taiwan.


12. He very condescendingly treats me like a child when I can prove he is wrong again and again and again.


13. His wife has better education than he does, but he treats her like she's dumb. She has a master's degree from Oxford university.

The above are just the problems I can think of and repeat themselves in my head on a daily basis. I might have more later.

Ahmed, after everything discussed so far, is a sociopathic liar and has caused me and my wife more damage and more strain in our lives than we deserve. After all of these things came together, I've been living with the trauma of following this lie, and it repeats itself in my head again and again and again on a daily basis. There are times I'm stairing off into the void and I'll shake my head because I'm thinking of the bull shit that Ahmed told me.

There might be someone who asks, "Why didn't you ask your parents about the inheritance?" To be honest, such a direct line of questioning is not the relationship that I have with my parents. Ahmed visited us twice while I was injured. The first time he visited us was just as my injury took place. The second time was 10 weeks-post injury. During this time I got two academic certificates. I could have gotten a third one that would sharpen my resume if he didn't show up and start bossing me around.

However, I'm also on a road of mental recovery. My wife is there for me every day. Although I'm unemployed, I'm looking for jobs and applying daily, and we are hopeful that I could have something soon.